You know the voice. The one that says “what will they think?” before you’ve even opened your mouth. It’s the reason you edit yourself in meetings, overthink what to wear, and build entire narratives about people who haven’t said a word to you. Perception isn’t just uncomfortable — it’s expensive. It costs you ideas, confidence, and time you’ll never get back.
In this episode, Renita breaks down why we scan, why we perform, and why “just stop caring what people think” has never worked for anyone. Plus, the yellow blazer story that took an embarrassing number of years to resolve.ked for.
But run the numbers on the alternative. Right now you’re spending energy working around people you’ve quietly written off. Rewriting somebody’s deck at 11pm instead of telling them what “done” looks like to you.
That’s not cheaper. It’s just spread out thin enough that you can’t see the bill.
And honestly? You’re asking people to figure out what you need before you’ve figured it out yourself.
